Have you ever wondered why it seems some people attain a degree of success you always hoped you would but it seems you don’t have what it takes?
Psychology Today published an article by Carlin Flora who researched the key traits – the X-Factors – which all truly successful people possess.
The four X-Factors of Success:
1) CHARISMA: The spellbinder: Personal magnetism – the essence which makes an individual stand apart. A person with the X-Factor of Charisma exhibits the qualities of expressiveness, sensitivity, control, eloquence, vision, self confidence and enthusiasm. He exudes positive energy beyond himself and brings people in his presence outside of themselves and into the present moment. Charisma cannot be taught but through communication techniques, it can become second nature.
2) CHUTZPAH: Nerve; audacity – is easily visible in admirable people. Our response to Chutzpah gifted people is predicated on someone who self promotes or one who embraces the good of all. This X-Factor is a controlled arrogance when taking advantage of social knowledge. It is someone who purposefully challenges the norm or convention.
3) JOIE DE VIVRE: French for the joy of living – a person who exhibits a delight in being alive. It elicits the thought of, “OK, I did that. What’s next?!” These individuals are “passionate explorers who view their work as play. Passionate exuberance is something you’re born with”. People with the X-Factor Joie de Vivre “are motivated not only to meet new people but to connect well with them….Exuberance spreads quickly” and “expands people’s sense of possibilities”. Plainly said, they are grateful to be alive. Many people trivialize Joie de Vivre because of envy. Just because someone is enthusiastic does not mean they don’t see life’s complexities.
4) GRACE: Fierce Benevolence – Grace is the quietest of the X-Factors; it is acquired through committed emotional and mental discipline. Star power never threatens to overpower substance. The characteristics of Grace are wisdom and benevolence. It springs from intense life experiences key to Grace. It has to do with equanimity – the ability to accept life’s ups and downs.
Hmmmm…..Interesting, huh? Read on………….
Do you feel you have these traits? And if not, do you want to acquire them? And how would they benefit you and everyone around you – family, friends, co-workers, even perfect strangers?
I’ve found that if you keep an open mind and an open eye for opportunities to increase self awareness about your own world and it’s impact on the lives of others, you will inadvertently acquire these traits.
For instance, when was the last time you purposefully made a commitment to better your self? Was it too overwhelming because there are so many things you want to improve but you don’t know where to begin?
Start by envisioning your self with these four X-factors and then look into yourself for those times in your life when you accomplished something which improved your life and you felt good about it. The secret of creating positive change in yourself is just – to start. Just begin the journey; constantly focusing on the prize – your goal, your vision of completing the process. You’ll soon find it is really no secret at all. The process has always been within your grasp; but the commitment to start is always the key to changing or improving anything.
Ready To Start Your Major Change?